Self-binding
2009-03-10 06:13Fear, coupled with perfectionism. Those can lead to rejecting reading, seeing, attempting something because you fear you may learn from it, or be changed.
We speak of rigidity, and fear of... death? The sense that this self, that I must best, strive to be as ideal and superior as possible. That then to be such a being I must derive independently the stances which I hold, opinions and beliefs. In feeling pressured, compelled... in feeling it so deep and pervasive that it is not even recognised even as a pressure rather than the invisible way of things, the shape of thoughts. In so feeling that drive learning, beyond the plain questioning of information sources or studying facts and figures and formulae, learning becomes something to fear.
If we, if I, in such a view do learn from others as teachers that becomes a failure, a diminishment. It means we have failed to discover this ourselves and lost also the chance to discover it in the future for now we are tainted by incorporating the ideas of others. No longer pure, what we in future discover and think will be influenced by these others and not us not I so brilliant being.
If this the view of others as teacher, how much greater the terror and resistance of what might be called transformative experience. We fear to let go. I fear to release hold of myself. Any relinquishing of control, but especially the prospect of some definite change in result. Something from outside, you see, that if I let go, release tight hold and control on what is me and allow such influence, allow to be swept up, allow to learn or experience something so likely perspective-changing, allow that I be not sole control, adjudicator, shaper, to surrender this illusion of being solitary independent seeker who might manage a superior perfection of self-enlightenment... well, more than failure, that feels like death. So shrieking mostly inward do I flee and recoil.
I am then afraid and seek to let go, not having yet done so, because it seems sometimes death is necessary for moving forward. At least, it seems by holding on my own happiness is limited and I'm not so to get where I want to go. Not by holding on to such sources of fear.
We speak of rigidity, and fear of... death? The sense that this self, that I must best, strive to be as ideal and superior as possible. That then to be such a being I must derive independently the stances which I hold, opinions and beliefs. In feeling pressured, compelled... in feeling it so deep and pervasive that it is not even recognised even as a pressure rather than the invisible way of things, the shape of thoughts. In so feeling that drive learning, beyond the plain questioning of information sources or studying facts and figures and formulae, learning becomes something to fear.
If we, if I, in such a view do learn from others as teachers that becomes a failure, a diminishment. It means we have failed to discover this ourselves and lost also the chance to discover it in the future for now we are tainted by incorporating the ideas of others. No longer pure, what we in future discover and think will be influenced by these others and not us not I so brilliant being.
If this the view of others as teacher, how much greater the terror and resistance of what might be called transformative experience. We fear to let go. I fear to release hold of myself. Any relinquishing of control, but especially the prospect of some definite change in result. Something from outside, you see, that if I let go, release tight hold and control on what is me and allow such influence, allow to be swept up, allow to learn or experience something so likely perspective-changing, allow that I be not sole control, adjudicator, shaper, to surrender this illusion of being solitary independent seeker who might manage a superior perfection of self-enlightenment... well, more than failure, that feels like death. So shrieking mostly inward do I flee and recoil.
I am then afraid and seek to let go, not having yet done so, because it seems sometimes death is necessary for moving forward. At least, it seems by holding on my own happiness is limited and I'm not so to get where I want to go. Not by holding on to such sources of fear.