Question of the moment b

[aesmael]

How does a person know when to break up with, end a relationship with another person?

Comments

[varinobo.livejournal.com]

Generally if they are actually dreading to talk/deal with the other person.

[flynnacatri.livejournal.com]

From experience of watching my sister... after actually talking to them about what the actual problems are. From there it would depend... but if both are aware (unless one refuses to be aware but has been given the explicit chance...)
After that, I guess when the lack of future balances out the hope of a future? When the harm to both outweighs the positivity?

... I suspect it's an individual decision, and not one I know enough about...

[aki-no-kaze.livejournal.com]

well, I broke up with my ex when it got to the point where I was happier on average when she wasnt around then when she was. When I started to dread the phone calls, fear the visits... and eventually was just trying to figure out a way to get out.

[coniferous_you]

It's an intensely personal thing. For me, I kind of fly on intuition for this. I will start feeling something my stomach saying "okay this is wrong now." And, if the feeling persists for a reasonable amount of time - then it ends somehow.

[pazi-ashfeather.livejournal.com]

For me, when I realized I simply wanted out. It was a very, very indecisive thing for a while. I really didn't want to hurt the person, or be hurt any longer. I wanted things to be pleasant and for the difficulties to feel...well, bearable again. The point at which I started planning my future around simply sticking close until it sucked me dry and I could finally leave (now utterly drained of the will to perservere) was the point where I decided it was time to end things.