Dreamwidth
2009-05-26 15:22So I finally was given an invitation to the thing, which means I can stop debating with myself whether I'd actually use it or if it's just another pointless thing and find out.
Originally I thought, maybe I can use that place as an opportunity to branch out, be more social, explore different interests. But I've got too of that already, really. The reason I'm lonely is the kinds of socialisation I am getting, not the amount, which is perhaps even too much and needing to be pulled back for my own sake. That won't be solved by joining a lot of different communities where I am neither adept at participating nor driven to work hard enough at participation to foster a sense of inclusion, if that is even possible.
I've been in online communities according to hobby or identity and I know from experience they are not for me, and even when I look at them and wish I could be part of the 'in group' I know also that just does not work for me, in a whole lot of ways. I might try still joining some but I have very little expectation of being able to participate.
So mainly it seems a bit pointless in the end, except as another cross-posting complication, but perhaps that will change. And I can at least try adding the people I know who maintain a presence at both sites.
Originally I thought, maybe I can use that place as an opportunity to branch out, be more social, explore different interests. But I've got too of that already, really. The reason I'm lonely is the kinds of socialisation I am getting, not the amount, which is perhaps even too much and needing to be pulled back for my own sake. That won't be solved by joining a lot of different communities where I am neither adept at participating nor driven to work hard enough at participation to foster a sense of inclusion, if that is even possible.
I've been in online communities according to hobby or identity and I know from experience they are not for me, and even when I look at them and wish I could be part of the 'in group' I know also that just does not work for me, in a whole lot of ways. I might try still joining some but I have very little expectation of being able to participate.
So mainly it seems a bit pointless in the end, except as another cross-posting complication, but perhaps that will change. And I can at least try adding the people I know who maintain a presence at both sites.